Emotions during pregnancy are strong and usually involuntary. The strong homones fueled by the human fetus take over our body and sometimes our minds. These emotions during pregnancy are brought on by conception and usually fade soon after baby is born, but do they really? Do emotions during pregnancy carry onto our baby's personality?
The other day, ChemistryMama and I were chatting away when we brought up the topic of emotions during pregnancy. I had asked her how she felt that maybe these emotions affect the human fetus not just in utero but with their personalities after birth. ChemistryMama confirmed that her emotions during pregnancy perhaps played a role in her baby's personalities too. I also told her about my thoughts and feelings during pregnancy and how they some how managed to be linked to my boys' personalities.
When I was pregnant with CJ, I was my normal self for the most part. I was more emotional, easily hurt by words and I was also afraid. I was afraid that CJ would be taken away from me by his biological father and his family. There was no evidence of them attempting to take him away, other then a few comments that were said in anger. My emotions with CJ during my pregnancy were that of hurt feelings and fear. CJ's personality is almost identical to mine and he does/did have fear of heights, dark rooms, and many other things and he easily gets his feelings hurt.
With Bubba, my emotions during pregnancy were a lot of anger, resentment and bitterness. I was as stubborn as a mule to let myself to become vulnerable with my husband who had hurt me, even though not intentionally but through his addiction. I did not know back then that the human fetus feels all of my emotions during pregnancy and if I had, I would have definitely changed my attitude during Bubba's pregnancy. Bubba is very strong willed and stubborn, not much more can be said.
My emotions during Mister's pregnancy were the best, for the most part. I was finally having a baby in wedlock, hubby and I were very happily married, and everything just felt so right and bonding with baby number three was easy to do. Then the most tragic thing happened in our family, my grandfather, Papa passed away suddenly. I was so mournful and grieving so badly. I wailed the night my parents came over to tell me. I wanted to cry the day Mister was born because my Papa would never see him or get to hold him. It was terrible grief. I cried non stop. It cannot be just a coincidence that Mister is an overly sensitive toddler too?
There is obviously no scientifically studied link to bear witness to the human fetus developing a personality similar to its mother's emotions during pregnancy. There just might be something to this. Examine your emotions during pregnancy parallel to your child's personality. It is something to consider or just ponder on. Or maybe infact, the human fetus's personality may just affect its mother's emotions during pregnancy? Hmmm?
-Whattoexpect